What are you committed to?

I think that’s a good question. If we’re somewhat serious people we can point to at least a few things that really matter to us. Maybe a friendship or significant relationship, your job, a cause, the kids—most of us can name a few. 

To list them is actually a good exercise. How seldom do you stop to think about the things or people that really matter? More importantly, how often do you consider whether your actions mirror your level of commitment?

In short, your commitments will reflect what you pour resources into and what you give time to. But often that can get skewed. That’s why we stop to reassess and list what’s important. 

We only commit ourselves where we feel we make a difference. If your involvement doesn’t matter, you don’t commit. But when your actions undermine your made commitment, then it hurts someone.

One area overlooked is our commitment to ourselves. We fail to maintain good boundaries or invest in our own health and well-being. What have you allowed to become a priority that shouldn’t be? How is that affecting people in your life?

Are you causing pain to the ones who matter most to you?

It doesn’t have to be that way. Those who love you—the ones you’re committed to—just want you to be who they know you are, and can be. 

They’re actually for you.

You making a move on things yourself, isn’t seen as failure. It’s seen as an act of commitment to those you love. And that’s one worth making.

Tim

PS—Going to work on your issues is an act of courage, but it seldom feels that way. It can make you feel isolated and alone. But you don’t have to feel lonely in your decision. Reach out, and we’ll do this thing together. You’ll be glad you did—more importantly, those who love you will be glad.

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